Seven facts of seven

My son just turned seven this month, and you can tell he is growing up, so I present you seven facts of a 7 year old boy.

1. He just asked me permission to go to a field trip with his school but he made me very clear that he wanted to be on his own no parental supervision, so in other words, Mom please don’t go with me.
2. Yesterday we ate pizza with him and my mom, and from the 8 slices he ate 4 while mom & I ate 2 each.
3. He is rehearsing for a performance his school is having for mother’s day and he told me the songs his teacher picked were too childish, he wished she would pick something more grown up like Pitbull or Gangnam Style. (not entirely sure those are grown up songs but he doesn’t know better)
4. A week before his birthday I asked him to clean up toys and donate anything that hasn’t been used in a while and he only picked his Hot Wheels cars and Lego sets to keep, everything else was discarded including a McQueen Laptop and his AquaDoodle - Mat.
5. He dresses himself and right before going to school he wears Cologne, of course we had to graduate to a kids Cologne because with the old one I used to chase him with the bottle because he said it was baby smell (clean lemon scent)
6. He just grow out of his jeans AGAIN, even my brother made fun of him because his pants were too short.
7. Yesterday he learned the fun in texting, he usually had sent emoticons to my mom in whatsapp, but she never responds, yesterday he started texting my brother and he loved it, I know I am in trouble already because he said oh that was so much fun!  And I thought to myself there is no way I will let him have a phone anytime soon, but I know he will use mine or at least attempt it.

So there you have it, being seven is certainly way too much fun for someone meaning grey hairs for somebody else.

Confidence is what every woman needs

I am not sure what is happening, but I do have a theory, there is time when I feel confident, yes I know I might not have the perfect body or look like a super model but I feel good.

But some other times my confidence is not as high, and even thought I know I should not care what people think, my theory is that the way I relate to people have an effect in me.

Back when I was in high school I was not exactly popular but I did hang out with the popular ones so that helped, but I was like the end of the run, during that time my confidence was not at its high regardless of what my mom would say.

Once I started going to college it was a little better, just the fact that I was going to a different town, etc.

When I got married I received another boost of confidence, I was going to live in a different country, and my whole life seemed perfect.

I know this might sounds very weird but when I got divorced I also got another injection of confidence because I was being very brave and also the fact that my ex still wanted me and he thought I was a great mother, etc…

Once I moved back to Mexico, I for sure was ok, I had had a very good life away and now I was back, better renewed, so I felt very good, until the last few months were I was in a relationship that ended not in a very good tone, for a while I just didn’t feel as confident as I was before. I actually had to work on it, I read a book, I prayed a lot, cried and went out with friends, I actually went clubbing a lot, hey it seemed like a good idea at the time, and the fact is that it made feel better, much better.

We ended up not talking to each other, but lately we started talking again,  and I started feeling so much better, I think is best for your own heart not to hold any grudges against nobody, so I did it for myself, and I guess it showed because last weekend I went out with some friends and I did end up giving my phone number not to one, but two guys, and it felt like a big ego boost.

That is it for now, but just to tell you that my confidence is back in full swing and I will work for it to stay this way.

Friends thru my internet connection

My internet connection at work was down for two days, my e-mails were not reliable either because server was up and down during this time, or so I was a little out of touch.

I have a friend who used to work with me and she is in a different city now, she is close but we just don’t see each other anymore.

Every morning I usually write her a quick e-mail sometimes I just say hello hope you are doing good, but others I write a whole novel for her and since she knows work and people she understands me and know what is going on.

Well after my two day disconnect from the online world she finally called me, she was worried, like actually worried about my well being, how in the world did I came up with such amazing friends?

All this is to tell you how happy I am with the friends I have, but most of those friends are far away, she is relatively close and I still don’t see her, imagine my friends I have from the US, those are very far and I have no ways to visit them, but I miss them dearly.

Sometimes I wish I have more friends that were close, but I come to realize that those friendships were not easy to come by and even I might not even be a good friend to some because I have limited time to spare to our friendship.

And I also know friends won’t come knocking on my door any time soon, I must go out and find them, the only problem is that I have no time to go do anything else besides my scheduled work, and fun I already have, so I guess for now all my long distance friends will have to do and I better go send them an e-mail so they know I still miss them and think of them

What do I miss the most?

When I was living in the states people usually asks what do you miss the most, my regular answer was aside from family I really miss the food.

Not like I don’t like food in the US, I actually have a few favourites that I miss now, and lately I have had conversations with people who lived in the US and they also remember certain foods that they liked as well.

I know we have potatoes here and that I have a working oven, but I miss baked potatoes, because they are not something that people eat here, and I know it might sound weird but I am craving it with the works.

I also love gravy and again is not a thing here so they don’t have the jars at the store.

When I was in the US I used to come on vacation every three months and I would take my supply of corn tortillas, my aunt was very surprised when I told her I took 12 dozens of tortillas back home and freeze them and take a few out at a time, that is not that much if you think about it, about 1.5 a day and my son loves tortillas too so we ate them in the 3 months lapse no problem.

I am skinny as it is; it is just a family trait because my dad and grandmother are also like me.  But also I do not eat sweets, candy, soda, my downfalls are chips and salty treats but what I do is to never buy any, so unless I am at a party there is no eating junk food for me.

Now if someone would ask me what do I miss the most from the states I would never say food, not entirely sure how to describe what I miss the most, I miss the whole concept of my life there.

Either way, I need to stop writing about food, because now I made myself hungry.

What the future holds?

How do you know that kid is growing up to be a responsible adult, well manner, centred and successful adult? You just don’t …

 I always worry that my son is well mannered but that he won’t be able to handle bullies on his own, or sometimes I think I spoil him too much, because when it’s not me it might be my mom or dad buying things for him.

He is an “A” student of course he is only in 1^st grade but he has been in the honour roll for the whole year, how do I guarantee that he will keep his grades all the way thru school. Or even better how do I guarantee that he will be successful in his career path because of his grades.

Would it be that I worry too much about his future? every night when we are doing bedtime routine, I always wonder, would he be scared for life just because I didn’t read to him one more book, or because I was mad that he was taking too long to go bed and yell at him right before he fall sleep, or even worse when he eats dinner but still right before bed he is hungry and can’t wait to get a snack that I usually deny, because I know it might be just tactics to not go to bed so soon. I always wonder if he really went to sleep hungry or if my instincts were right and he was just hungrier than I thought.

I also worry that he doesn’t see his dad, of course I know for sure that is much better this way, but when he is older I know he will ask me and I am not sure what am I going to say because as for now, I have never said anything bad about his dad to him, so he thinks very well of him, and sometimes fantasizes about going to visit him and I know once he is there would he like it or would it be just a very bad experience.

I just try to do my best as a mom, and lucky me I have tons of help with my own family, so I guess I can only hope for the best in his future.